Will I have to go to church to get married in one?
Great question, you don’t have to go to church to get married in one. There are basic requirements you have to adhere to but as long as you do you can marry almost anywhere these days.
If all the basic legal requirements are met and you want to then you can get married in your local church, or one where you have a legally-recognised connection.
Does it have to be my local Church?
However the good news for one and all is that you can marry in church regardless of your beliefs, whether you have been christened or not or if you don’t go to church regularly.
Is it a privilege for the vicar to marry us?
Yes its definitely a privilege for the Vicar to marry a couple and they enjoy their role in doing this.
What if I am not connected to the church I want to get married in?
Sometimes even if neither of the couple have a connection to their chosen church. A connection to a church can always be created if they go along to the services for a approximately six months ( please remember to leave enough times to have your Banns read as well, This is approximately another two months).
Should we attend regulary once the Banns are read?
This is probably the only occasion when regularly attending the church would be required. However there is also the case of if your chosen church had other family connections, then this would be an option.
Why are connections to the church such a strong factor?
When I got married so many years ago in Romsey Abbey, We already had a connection because my family were born and raised there.
We had to have a meeting with the (Current at that time) Vicar to ensure we knew we were sincere about getting married and how married life would be for us.
The Vicar even asked if we thought about children as well. He covered every area of being married to ensure both we and himself were happy to go forward and commit to eachother as well as our marraige.
I think things in Romsey Parish were a little more in-depth in those days. These days I feel its a little more open minded as times have moved on,
It’s possible to marry legally in many other churches away from where you were born or currently live if you can show that you can meet criteria of one of the seven connections to that parish. This only applies to the UK Churches.
How do I know which is my local Church?
If you’re not sure which is your local church, I have placed this link for you to check…. www.achurchnearyou.com . Just fill in the required boxes to find it, Then click on the search arrow and your local church should be shown within its parish boundary.
Alternatively you can search using a postcode. If you want to search for a church in a different place, type in the place name instead and churches in that area will come up for yous.
If you wanted to find your local church, search here..achurchnearyou
So you would need at least one of the following…
- If you have at any time lived in the parish for a minimum of 6 months,
- If either of you were baptised (christened) in the parish you wish to marry in,
- If you are confirmed and your confirmation was entered in the register of confirmations for a church or chapel in the parish (usually if you were prepared for confirmation in the parish),
- If you have at any time regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months as mentioned above
- If your parents were born or married in the parish
- has lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months, or
- has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months
- if your grandparents was married in the parish
Remember the Vicar is your friend so do talk to him/her about your options available to you.
Clearly if you move into the area you have immediate connection to the parish church.