How do I handle the loss of a pet ?
That’s a very hard question,, However I am going to share a personal experience and try to shed some light on it.
This weekend was the saddest weekend of my life. I had to put my dog, best friend and most precious thing in my life to sleep.
It got me thinking of all sorts of what ifs, why’s, how’s, and conjured up more emotions that I ever felt possible. After all this wasn’t a human, but my pet, my baby and my companion.
How to find a positive?
Mimi was always there no matter what the day had thrown at either of us. Mimi was always putting a smile on my face or finding some sort of contentment to any situation because at the end of the day we were a team. She could be so funny, cute, cuddly and naughty!!!! But most of all very loving.
However, after my brain had processed what had happened I thought about all the emphasis people place on situations, the meanings we give to things, how we miss the obvious and worry about things that really don’t matter.
What Defines Us?
what defines who we are is how we react to situations. for instance people think that what we do for a living defines us, but how we act and how we deal with the people and the things we love so dearly in our lives are what actually define us.
I find that all too much importance is put on our profession, the money we earn, the things we can buy or have, the places we go, who we see, even how we’re seen by others!!!!!!.
Will We Ever Reach That Happy Place?
This in turn then leads to our internal assumptions telling ourselves “I will be happy when I can buy this”, “I will feel better when I get that”, “ I will be more confident when this happens”,” I will feel great when I reach that goal”, be that weight, get that job…. The list is endless.
The end goal is never ever reached, just replaced with new internal goals. Life seems to be built on mainly material things that people think will create a feeling, rather than just choosing to feel that way or to be that way regardless of the situation.
Whats our Outcome?
Outcomes are so important to the human race. After such a huge part of my life was torn from me in such a rude manner without asking or without giving me time to process it, or think of other options, or even any control over the whole situation, I had to stop and think!!!!!
Can we call it luck?
How lucky was I to have had that time with her at all?
I was able to share time with her bouncing around, sleeping, running with her and her ball, and most of all a warm hug at the end of the day.
For Mimi this was more than enough in life. It was so simple Mimi just loved to be happy.
Im a huge believer in “for everything bad, something good comes”.
Having said this statement to other people so many times and in so many different situations, I knew I had to apply it to myself.
I always try to find a positive. I would find myself in a very hypocritical state if I didn’t do this now.
Hard as it was I had to ask myself… what the hell good could come from this tragedy????
Well if I am to take anything at all from this, what is it?
I have learned that each day to be happy is a choice. What people do is what they should enjoy. There will be moments that don’t quite cut the mustard but learn from it and find that positive.
There is always a positive you know if you look.
A true way to live is to see the good and choose happy and loving over everything else and be humbled by people you meet.
Take time with, and have the pleasure of coming into contact with other people. No matter what goals you may have, remember they are in the distance, we are here in the now, be there happily with it x
What have I Learned?
Now as for Mimi, she was mine for lots of years and we had so much fun. Now I’m not saying that no more tears will fall from my eyes or feel a huge hole in my heart, stop loving and longing for her but I am so lucky to have been able to be blessed with these feelings she left me because the alternative was this….
I would of had no time with Mimi, no fun with Mimi, no closeness with Mimi and no Mimi at all…
So there are my positives and I will always hold the bond that we had in my heart x